#NaPhoPoMo Day 7: Reflecting Photos

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
— Thomas Merton

I took this photo of my art manikin, in response to today's My 365 tag, #in_the_mirror. I usually look for a quote to caption these themed photos and this one stood out because I truly did twist the the doll to fit the image I wanted. Down the rabbit hole I fell.

You don't see me reflected in the photo but I'm there, holding the manikin in my right hand, iPhone in my left, thumb snapping the shutter. A minute earlier, I had sprayed the make-up mirror with Windex and wiped it clean, but lint from the paper towel remained, magnified at least seven times. My actions were still reflected.

We may say love is blind, but I don't think it can ever be a double-blind experiment. Our interactions can't help but  influence a person's self image, positive or not. Tall Guy and I have talked about ways in which we've become nicer to ourselves, simply because of the way we speak to and care for each other. 

By the time we're adults at the mirror, I think many of us habitually look for and obsess over, our own perceived flaws and blemishes. I want the kind of love that twists and turns me to see my good side and I want to wipe away old and limiting outlooks so that My Love sees all the light in him that I see.  I think those are good actions to reflect on, in and out of the rabbit hole.

 I hope you're enjoying your weekend.


During the month of November, as part of NaPhoPoMo, I intend to post at least one photo a day here. Sometimes with a little story, sometimes with only a caption, always in the hope of resisting the urge for it all to be perfect.

Photo: iPhone 5s, Camera+